— Anger, honesty, boundaries – Oh My – The Blizzard of OzSeptember 8, 2012 at 6:58 am | Posted in Online Ministry | Leave a comment
If Dorothy traversed the yellow brick road today, she’d be on her way to the emerald ($$$ = that kind of green) – world of work, the land of OZ, where so many people I know are looking for a way to go home, literally.
In digital companies, nearly everyone is overworked all the time, trying to shovel out of neck-deep piles of work obscured by swirls of unproductive meetings.
I start a new position on Monday and am hopeful that I will intentionally be mindful of moi and take care of myself spiritually, physically, and mentally. Several daily skype and phone calls to my beloved will calm me and keep me connected to my deepest, most cherished connection. But, I’ll be on the road a lot, abroad, and back in the land of startups. It’s worth it because the elearning company is innovating to help kids in disadvantaged homes. I will attend local UUs in my travels, the first of which will probably be Dublin Unitarian Church in Ireland.
I’ll also have our second home on Cape Cod to shore me up. You can pitch a penny in Massachusetts and hit a UU! In some places UU churches are nearly as numerous as Starbucks!
In addition, I will have Rev. Galen Guengerich’s daily email devotional readings to contemplate. And thank God for them. I usually do not like daily quotidians. But Rev. Galen’s missives are good.
Moral virtue is a mean that lies between two vices, one of excess and the other of deficiency, and… it aims at hitting the mean both in feelings and actions. So it is hard to be good, for surely it is hard in each instance to find the mean, just as it is hard to find the center of a circle. It is easy to get angry or to spend money – anyone can do that. But to act the right way toward the right person, in due proportion, at the right time, for the right reason, and in the right manner – that is not easy, and not everyone can do it.
(Aristotle, 384 – 322 BCE)
That “mean” is something that I had for most of my life. And then in July 2007, what was for me a cataclysmic event changed everything. It’s what eventually lead me to UUism in 2009. I’m grateful for that confluence of events that completely dismantled me and released a lot of anger. It lead to a three year journey to put the pieces back together.
However, that “mean” was fueled by tremendous coping mechanisms — herculean coping mechanisms that propelled me to lofty heights in my career but lows in my personal life. Staying calm and rational in the most dire of circumstances was one of my most valuable assets – or so I thought. Too many people crossed my boundaries in my professional life and I let them for the sake of success and relationship building. That ain’t gonna happen anymore. I’m not afraid of stopping-in-its-tracks transgressions in to my personal life and well-being.
The pendulum swung the other way in a soul searching journey. The door that nearly closed my heart was blown off its hinges and the power of the love I carry exploded on the scene like a toddler high on sugar.
And so I find myself three years later, sugar free (gluten and dairy free too), 50 pounds+ lighter, hopefully spiritually more grounded and hopefully wiser.
I wear my chalice necklace nearly all the time. If it’s not on my neck, then subtly stylized versions dangle from my ears. They are visual reminders than I’m carrying all the lessons learned and all the love I experience in my religious life.
I take you all with me wherever I go.
Meanwhile, I have a few more files to upload over the next two weeks and then the digital ministry grant work will be complete. It’s been a priviledge.